One way to start a conversation without saying anything is to wear a conversation starter.
You may have already heard the term conversation piece before. A conversation piece is where a person wears an unusual object that arouses comment or interest.
Wearing a conversation starter is the same concept.
The goal is to try wearing something catchy that is still true to your style, but in which others are bound to comment on, like a unique brooch or tie or even just a fun colour.
A conversation piece can increase the chances that others will notice what you are wearing and say, “Oh, that’s great. Where did you get it?” or for you to receive a compliment that says, “Wow, that colour looks perfect on you.”
Wearing conversation starters gives people a reason to approach you, and by default, you become approachable. Being approachable is how you can start a conversation without saying anything. Your conversation piece is what will speak for you.
What do you think are the chances of being approached when you wear these?
This picture gives us a great example of someone who would have a better chance of being approached.
They added something to their attire that would encourage someone to approach them about it.
I have found success with this particular strategy – wearing a conversation starter.
For example, my hairstyle has been the reason for many conversation starters.
The colour or the cut has impressed people to ask questions about it. I didn’t realize my hair was able to do that at the time of choosing the style. I chose it because I liked it. But I’m glad I did because now it is the object that has gained me many approachable opportunities.
When you wear a conversation starter, be prepared to have a conversation. People are most likely going to ask you questions about your conversation piece, so you need to prepare your answer about it.
They could have just said a compliment or comment on your piece and kept it moving, but instead, they asked you a question about it, which means that they most likely want to start a conversation with you.
So if you are wearing clothing items like a brooch or a tie, be prepared to say where you bought it from or who gave it to you or why it’s meaningful to you.
If you are wearing a bright colour, be prepared to share why you chose to wear that colour or why it is your favourite colour.
Besides a clothing item, you can also consider carrying a prop with you to help you start a conversation.
A prop might be your dog for instances. I’m not much of an animal lover myself, but I can see how a dog can open up approachable opportunities for the owner who is walking them.
Here’s how you can start a conversation.
To the owner of the dog, you can comment on the breed, how friendly the dog is or ask the owner if they live around the area. If you have a dog too, that may force you all (I mean to give you an excuse) to talk because dogs always stop and smell each other. During that time, you can start a conversation. This approachable opportunity is the only reason why I would consider owning a dog.
Another prop to consider would be a book. However, you need to be careful with this one. You can’t be reading it, as this will come across as unapproachable. Instead, just hold the book with the book cover facing upwards so that it is visible for the approacher to see it and be able to comment on it.
As you can see, wearing a conversation starter is the tip that is perfect for the shy person. A shy person doesn’t have to do much more than wearing something that will bring people to them. You wearing a conversation starter gives the approacher across the room an excuse to approach you.
What is something that you can wear or something that you can bring that will get someone to approach you?