So you see this guy that you want him to ask for your number.
You are interested, but you don’t know if he is.
You also don’t know if he knows that you are interested in him.
If this is you, then what you are about to hear is for you.
This is for you if…
If you see the guy frequently and you don’t know how to go past the small-talk stage.
This is not for you if you only see him once and never see him again.
The tips that you are about to hear are guaranteed to work in situations where you are bound to see him again for a follow-up.
Okay, here we go!
You may be shy doing what I’m about to tell you the first time around, but I’m hoping that since you are always seeing him, that by the second or third time, you will do it.
First of all, why aren’t any of you taking the initiative to move from small talk when you see each other to a phone conversation?
Let’s start with you.
Here is why you are not exchanging numbers
I bet you are saying the following:
“If he is interested, he would say something.”
In a movie, you may have seen this play out, but it doesn’t always play out the same in real life.
Most guys fear rejection, and if they have no clue if you are interested, they are not going to take the risk in fear of embarrassment.
I bet you are also saying the following:
“I’m not going to pursue a man; he has to pursue me.”
I hear this all the time. But ladies, there is a difference between pursuing and approaching.
Initiating contact is not pursuing. You approaching a man to start a conversation should not be confused with pursuing.
But here is the shocker.
Giving out your number is not pursuing either.
In fact, you giving him your number opens up the opportunity for him to pursue you.
I will tell you how to do this so that the man ends up pursuing you later. But first, let’s talk about why the man is not moving past the small talk.
Here is why he is not moving past small talk and getting your number
There are several reasons why this is happening, and one of them you may not like to hear.
First, he may be clueless about whether or not you are interested. This one mentioned above, but it’s worth repeating because it’s significant.
If you are not showing interest, he’s not going to pursue you. You might get the odd guy who would pursue you without this knowledge, but I bet it is a guy who you are interested in. Tell me I’m wrong.
Secondly, he may be shy. Being shy shouldn’t be a turnoff. We all have fears. Taking the initiative to ask for your number might be his. He may not have the tools to overcome his aversion to ask you for your contact. Keep reading, and I will show you how to make this transition smooth.
I know you are probably like spill it already, but I have one more thing to say about why he’s not asking you for the number. This reason you are not going to like but you need to hear it.
He is not pursuing you because he is not interested.
Sorry to be the bearer of bad news. But you may have to come to terms with this.
He may be just a friendly guy. Nothing more.
I had an attractive guy that I would often see even tell me I was pretty who still didn’t pursue me. But then again I didn’t try this tip.
Okay, so here is the tip.
Give him your number!
Yes, you heard, right. But you need to know how to this because you can just give it to him in any way. You have to do it the same way I tell you, or it won’t work.
First off, let me remind you this can only be applied if you see each other more than once, and you are bound to see each other again.
I also recommend you do this after the second or their encounter. You can still do it after that, but what are you both waiting for? Especially if you are showing interest. Side note; I will save how to show you are interested another time.
So this is what you have to do.
Here is how to get a guy to ask for your number
As the conversation is winding down, you indicate how enjoyable the conversation was, and you would like to continue the conversation at a later date. Then you give him your number.
But you don’t let him type in his phone, and you don’t type it on his phone either.
The reason you don’t do this is that you don’t want him to text or call you so that you end up having his number.
You don’t want the option to call him. You want him to call you. This way, you know he is interested, and he is left to pursue you.
You gave him your number, lets him know you are interested and makes it easier for him to call.
Since you are not going to be typing out, you are probably wondering how does he end up with my number?
Here’s something that you probably forgot doing back in the day, and that is writing out your number on a piece of paper. Give it to him and then walk away immediately. It is an old school trick that can work in the new school. The Generation Y folks may not know about this, but if you were born in the eighties or before then, you will.
Why does this work?
Well, if he is interested, he would be motivated to put the number on his phone after you leave.
Why not just give him my business card, you ask?
Well, you don’t want him to be confused that you are interested in business when you are interested in a romantic relationship.
What if he still ends up texting after?
You don’t want to be stuck in the texting game so if you receive the text
“Hey, it’s so and so, here’s my number.”
Text back and say the following:
“Great, now I will know who it is when you call me :).
Looking forward to your call.”
And that’s it, folks.
One simple step that you can apply the next time you find yourself in this situation.
I would love to hear how it goes.
I’m pretty confident this will work.
Let me know how it goes. I would love to coach you along the way.